When this situation happens in a relationship, it becomes very exhausting and it also sets up your relationship to be full of resentment. You will start resenting your partner because it becomes one-sided. This behavior allows your partner to take you for granted very easily, and it also is stressful on you to try to be this "perfect" partner. When dating, if you don't break this pattern, every relationship you get in, will head down that same road again with the same ending.
This is a trait of CoDependency!
Just to be clear on what CoDependency is: It is an emotional and behavioral condition that affects an individual's ability to have a healthy, mutually satisfying relationship. It is also known as “relationship addiction” because people with codependency often form or maintain relationships that are one-sided, emotionally destructive and/or abusive.
So many resources online can help you through these type of relationship issues. If this is something you need help with, below are some online resources that may help.
If you have this pattern of putting yourself on the back burner, it is probably best to address it asap in your current relationship or if you are not in a relationship - it is a great time to become self aware and work on those issues within yourself.
Healthy relationships are a two-way street, teamwork, both parties working hard to make it work and to make the other one happy. Mutual respect, thoughtfulness and being courteous from BOTH partners go a long way!
Helpful Links:
http://coda.org/index.cfm/meeting-materials1/patterns-and-characteristics-2011/
https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=aWlXQW89R7U
https://www.huffingtonpost.com/entry/how-i-escaped-the-prison-of-my-codependent-marriage_us_57f5567de4b0568704999cb9
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